Friday, November 6, 2015

How to be a 21st century Man Series (Part-2) : Understand what your sister is NOT.

Dear Man, please understand what you sister is NOT.
  1. Your sister is NOT your inferior, not your "poorer version".
  2. Your sister is NOT your daughter. Stop feeling paternalistic and over-protective about her. 
  3. Your sister is NOT your waitress. She is not supposed to pick up your used plates/glasses/spoons/etc.
  4. Your sister is NOT your governess. 
  5. Your sister is NOT supposed to forgo her share of your parents' property.
  6. Your sister is NOT a separatist. She can be a loyalist to her parents exactly as you are to them. 
  7. Your sister is NOT a "Paraayaa Dhan" : stop crying in her marriage. She is NOT "going away" anywhere. She is NOT a "transferable property". 
  8. Your sister is NOT supposed to eat after you, after serving you!
  9. Your sister is NOT supposed to pick up after you. She is not supposed to arrange your room at regular intervals.
  10. Your sister is NOT your servant, that you can order her to fetch you water after coming from the gym. She may be herself in the gym at that time. 
  11. Your sister is NOT supposed to tie Rakhi and ask for your 'protection'. 
  12. Your sister is NOT less of your parent's child as compared to you.
  13. Your sister is NOT supposed to give up her education so that you can pursue yours.
  14. Your sister is NOT supposed to give up her hobby so that you can pursue yours.
  15. Your sister is NOT supposed to de-link with your parents after her marriage : she can still have joint account with either/both parent(s). 
  16. Your sister is NOT supposed to forgo her responsibilities towards her parents : she can also look after them alternately with you in their old age. 
  17. Your sister is NOT supposed to have curfew when you don't have. She can also have a "Girls' night-out". 
  18. Your sister is NOT supposed to not invite her male friends to the house, when you can invite your female friends.
  19. Your sister is NOT your liability. Don't assume the responsibility of "marrying her off". 
  20. Your sister is NOT supposed to hide her better grades from you. 
  21. Your sister is NOT supposed to behave "lady-like" to please anyone : don't order her.
  22. Your sister is NOT supposed to be "smiling, nice, sweet, pleasant, soft-spoken, kind, considerate, adjusting, accommodating" all the time.
  23. Your sister is NOT supposed to be ashamed of her body or menstruation. She is NOT supposed to be shy about it or avoid any such discussion with you. 
  24. Your sister is NOT supposed to be behave like "Miss India". She is not supposed to be docile, meek, coy, etc. like Suraj Barjatya's sugarcane heroines. 
  25. Your sister is NOT less important than you for the family.
  26. Your sister is NOT less responsible than you for the family.
  27. Your sister is NOT supposed to always seat in the backseat of the family car and you in the front. She can also ride your dad's scooter and drop you somewhere you want to reach. 
  28. Your sister is NOT supposed to be not interested in sports : all bats, balls, rackets, boxing gloves, shuttles, swimming goggles, dumbells in the house are not for your exclusive use. 
  29. Your sister is NOT supposed to dress traditionally, to "uphold family culture", when you are loitering in your Bermudas and ganji. 
  30. Your sister is NOT supposed to not drink, when you can get sozzled. 
  31. Your sister is NOT supposed to be "naturally interested" in shopping, make-up, pink color. She need not always pick up "Femina", "Women's Era". "Good Housekeeping", etc. from the magazine stall. She is free to pick up "India Today" also.